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  • Olivia De Santos

An Open Letter To Grooms

Photo by Phil Drinkwater

Hello sir!

Firstly may I say my hugest congratulations on your upcoming wedding. As it is considered the most important day of your life, I’m sure you have had tons of opinions of how the event should go…


…Well, why not?

…Don’t you care about your wedding day?

“But it’s the bride’s day!” I hear you say. “The bride gets the final say – it’s her big day.”

I take fault in this way of thinking. Even though I aim my blog at women, magazines are aimed at women and the whole industry seems to direct itself at women, I have not met a single bride who didn’t instantly feel ever more in love with their fiance when he spoke his mind about the wedding.

For you see my friend, taking an interest in the wedding is one of the sexiest things you can do! Hearing a man discuss menu options and sit at the table with interest when discussing flowers just makes us swoon. It shows that you care – not only about the wedding itself but about your marriage, your family and most importantly your fiancé. And let me assure you that a caring man is a happy, strong and sexually satisfied man.

Now you may also be thinking that you don’t know the first thing about flowers and bridesmaids’ dresses and napkins. What could you possibly have to add to the planning process? Well it can be tricky to know what to say when so here is a short list of things you can get involved with:

– Suits

One of the easiest ways to lend a hand is by sourcing yours and the groomsmen’s suits. Not only are you likely to know more about this than your future spouse, but it takes a huge weight off if you can sort this on your own.

– Food and drink menus

The menu tasting one of the most enjoyable parts of the wedding process. All you have to do is show up and eat! If you’re a foodie you’ll love having a hand in crafting the wedding breakfast.

– Wedding cars

There are some really stylish cars on offer for weddings nowadays. Maybe you’re car-savvy and have a dream vehicle in your head. Put your vote in – your fiancé won’t bite!

– Miscellaneous wedding stuff

You may not think you have an opinion but taking an interest in the design is a sign of a thoughtful and caring guy. If your fiancé shows you a picture of a cake for example, give your honest opinion! There is nothing worse than someone who agrees with everything you say. Be truthful and you’ll both be happy!

– Morning-of-the-wedding gift

If all else fails and you’ve not really had an input in anything (or you’ve gone full Groomzilla and had an input in everything), a morning-of-the-wedding gift instantly brings a smile to your bride’s face. This could be something small like a note saying you love her and can’t wait to see her, or it can be more luxe like a bottle of perfume or a piece of jewellery. Whatever you choose I guarantee it’ll go down well!

And that’s all! I hope you have seen the light and are planning how you can show your interest straight away. Below I have put the link to some wedding websites aimed at grooms so you can find out new ways to get involved and catch up on the lingo. And if you’re a bride reading this and want your future hubby to step up, please share this with him.

Take care and all my best wishes for the future,

Olivia x